Friday, December 05, 2008

Talkabout [Updated]


Today, I'll on CBC Radio One's "Q," talking about Letters from Johns and Letters from Working Girls at 9:30 a.m. EST. The show streams live online and will be available as a podcast by the end of the day. Tune in to find out if I sound more like an idiot or a jackass.

After a short hiatus, I'm back contributing to Slate's XX Factor. Recent posts focus on womb rentals and the Britney monster. Things got exciting when Slate announced their latest columnist wasn't me, but America's favorite john. Spitzer's column will focus on his experiences in the sex trade, how to get the best rates on call girls during a recession, and why he kept his socks on with Ashley (it was cold). In light of that fact and the fact that Tina Brown's trotting out anonymous wannabe escort stories to fill the void left by Radar's always classy denouements, I asked the darling Debauchette for her two cents on the sugar daddy phenom.

And you? Have a great weekend. Why? Because I'm sad when you're sad. And we don't want to be sad, now do we?

Update: The Canadians Speak

Post-Show Email #1:

"I caught your interview and thought you came across as a breath of fresh air. I [redacted].

As a journalist, I have been frustrated by the outdated views expressed by many of the people I work with. Many of the women in the newsroom seem to have an outright contempt for prostitutes and Johns. Of course, this makes doing stories on this segment of society very difficult...at least when one is working for mainstream media.

Meanwhile, sex trade workers in this area have been getting organized and becoming more aligned with progressive elements of the feminist movement. At the same time, the police are cracking down on prostitution as if we're back in the 1950's."

Post-Show Email #2:

"There are two reasons I go to escorts. Firstly, I just happen to like sex with promiscuous women. Lets face it, most women are not promiscuous and many women really aren't all that interested in sex. Most women I know are interested in a relationship. I have a relationship already. I am just looking for sex.

The second reason is more prosaic. I had been in a nine year sexless relationship. Currently, my marriage has turned sexless for a very good reason, and someday it will be sexual again. But in the mean time I am not getting any sex from my wife. Escorts fill the gap. I get sex and my wife is relieved of the pressure of sex."

Post-Show Email #3:

"I turned on my radio as I stepped into my kitchen this morning and was delighted to catch your interview.

I am not able to follow your blog consistently, but those moments when I do have time to stop by the Reverse Cowgirl I find your pieces engaging and articulate.

While this probably seems odd in light of the lack of love you have for sites like Jezebel, I was actually surprised to hear you say you weren't a fan of feminism.

Then again, shortly after you made that statement you commented on the disparity in levels of social acceptance and repercussion for male consumers and female providers in the sex trade.

I think it is this kind of sentiment that makes me read you as feminist - though admittedly within the confines of what I think that label ought to entail and quite probably not within your definition of the word.

I think a default assumption of victimhood any time a woman is engaged in any level of sexual transaction denies women basic levels of agency and is inherently disempowering and alienating.

Similarly, I don't think there is anything to be gained through the blanket assumption of all men as predators or abusers.

It's also just not a very interesting thing to do and needlessly eliminates opportunities for thought and observation and discussion.

I'll stop there, as I doubt I'm saying anything you that you'd find novel.

I in no way intend this as some kind of admonishment nor as an attempt to convince you to take on a label you do not favour.

I think either of those would be wildly inappropriate.

I guess I just wanted to say that I identify as a (sex-positive third-wave) feminist, and I think you're great."